I had to leave the house and use public transportation today. God I shouldn't have left the house...

So I'm standing on the train station and I see sluts everywhere. What really caught my eye was these 5 high-E (huge asses) ethnic whores with tight white jeans standing on the platform and waiting for the train. I looked at them once, but quickly looked away and never looked at them again. I didn't want them to think that I was interested in their looks or anything. But deep down I was full of anger, rage and mostly jealousy. I knew someone was hitting that, and it wasn't me.

I enter the train and take a seat. Next thing you know a group of slim white blonde JBs (17-18 years of age) enter the train and they sit near me. I have social anxiety so as soon as they sat near me my heart started to beat really fast and I felt very nervous and shy (is there any cure for social anxiety?)

I hear how they talk about having a "girls night out" (whatever that means) and they are deciding where to go. 5 min later one of the girls spots a group of guys on the train and they all agree to go and talk to the guys. But before they did that they took out their combs and make-up and fixed themselves and then approached the group of random guys.

I really felt like shit at this point. I felt like an complete loser. A fucking failure. I chewed on my Falim as hard as I could but soon realized that it wouldn't change anything and that I was just coping by chewing hard.

I switch train and this time when I enter I see 2 girls with a speaker blasting high volume music and singing along. Pittbull, Jennifer Lopez etc. I quickly realized that these girls must have received huge amount of validation because no normal person would be this low-Inhab to actually play shitty music loud on the train so everyone can hear it. The stuff that they sang made me so fucking angry!

"Life is great", "We love to live and party", "We want to have some fun", "I want to scream and shout and let it all out"

!!! Fuck!!

There is so much that I'm missing and not aware of. People younger than me are experiencing some much more of life than I could ever think of. Leaving the house for 1 hour showed me this... Imagine having to be surrounded by this every single day? I'm now convinced that Life is really just an huge fuck fest and I'm not just invited. I experienced so much in just 1 hour. I can't imagine the things that I miss and don't see everyday.


How would you feel and react if you were in my situation today?

constant exposure to social situations helps with social anxiety
u need to get out of ur comfourt zone and actually socialize to help with SA

legit getting a job as a waiter is one of the best ways to help with SA
u interact with lots of different people all day and it's easy because it's pretty much the same things being said (hi, can I take your order. ect) so u arn't pressured to think of stuff to talk about

Realise wrote:constant exposure to social situations helps with social anxiety
u need to get out of ur comfourt zone and actually socialize to help with SA

legit getting a job as a waiter is one of the best ways to help with SA
u interact with lots of different people all day and it's easy because it's pretty much the same things being said (hi, can I take your order. ect) so u arn't pressured to think of stuff to talk about

But is it permanent? I have heard that you can never actually change your personality. Don't know if it's legit or not. I hope not.

But I will take a job like that if my anxiety goes away and I learn to interact with people.

DeppIsGod wrote:

Realise wrote:constant exposure to social situations helps with social anxiety
u need to get out of ur comfourt zone and actually socialize to help with SA

legit getting a job as a waiter is one of the best ways to help with SA
u interact with lots of different people all day and it's easy because it's pretty much the same things being said (hi, can I take your order. ect) so u arn't pressured to think of stuff to talk about

But is it permanent? I have heard that you can never actually change your personality. Don't know if it's legit or not. I hope not.

But I will take a job like that if my anxiety goes away and I learn to interact with people.

it will defiently help you improve your social skills (i have since I started working as a kitchen hand/waiter; and others have commented on it), but I doubt you could really change to full on extrovert

i feel less anxiety in most situations
e.g. I can go up to randoms and ask questions if I need help + FRIENDLY conversing with females
although I still have to much anxiety to make a move on a girl

where as post exposure (mininal socialising at school + staying inside all weekend), I was to high inhibition to go into shops and talk with employee's and killed conversations with most ppl by one word answers

I learn to just block out all the people around me in social situations. Sluts don't even bother me anymore.

Legit

Bojack wrote:I learn to just block out all the people around me in social situations. Sluts don't even bother me anymore.

How is that even possible? Unless you're low-T with zero sex drive, I can't see how that's possible.

Whenever I see a young slim 6+ slut out in public I get 3 different feelings at the same time:

Anger
Jealousy
Sexual desire

This is so bad I almost question if it's real, but I feel your pain man. Being tempted by attractive women daily (I see them at the gym), or knowing that people who are little more than half your age are experiencing things you never got to. It's not as bad now that I'm not on a college campus and have to see young couples daily, but you can't help but feel despair when you think about what's going on and what you're missing out on. As I type this here on a Friday night some lucky fuckers are out having the time of their lives while we missed the fucking boat. Life is cruel.

In my experience if you want to improve social skills and reduce anxiety you just need to talk to people. That's really the only way. When I was meeting and talking to people daily, my social skills were a lot more sharp and I had less anxiety as I do know. You will be overall less anxious with time, but the key really is practice.

You should speak to your Dr. about social anxiety and the possibility of medication. A low dose of Zoloft/Sertraline can make a big difference and assist with your practice and exposure.

In addition, learn about breathing and the impact it can have on reducing anxiety (breathing properly.)

This breathing exercise, by Dr. David Carbonell is excellent:
http://www.anxietycoach.com/breathingexercise.html

PuaKiller wrote:This is so bad I almost question if it's real, but I feel your pain man. Being tempted by attractive women daily (I see them at the gym), or knowing that people who are little more than half your age are experiencing things you never got to. It's not as bad now that I'm not on a college campus and have to see young couples daily, but you can't help but feel despair when you think about what's going on and what you're missing out on. As I type this here on a Friday night some lucky fuckers are out having the time of their lives while we missed the fucking boat. Life is cruel.

In my experience if you want to improve social skills and reduce anxiety you just need to talk to people. That's really the only way. When I was meeting and talking to people daily, my social skills were a lot more sharp and I had less anxiety as I do know. You will be overall less anxious with time, but the key really is practice.

legit as fuck

fucking hate seeing all these caked up whores at my gym wearing leggings and just being there for attention knowing i cant have them

fuck this life man