sasuke69 wrote:Not trolling. I really want to know. Any of you with PU experience I would like your views on this too.
Your thread is very good. I just have a question. Do you approach women who give you a signal first like a smile or strong eye-contact? I'm sure you get these from time to time.
If you do what's your success with them? Again, I'm not trolling really curious about your experience.
I approach indiscriminately because a woman giving me a signal first are few and far between. Keep in mind, im 5 foot 5 Asian, so i don't get many pre-approach signals. I had a wingman who was 6'1, good looking black guy who would get a lot of signals whenever me and him go to a club and he ONLY focused on those girls. (he would intentionally put himself within their proximity or in a busy area of the club).
Me personally, i'm not a big fan of this because you cannot control the attractiveness of the woman that does this to you(my standards are above average). Generally speaking, women who are 6s and below usually give out these signals first
, the 9s and 10s rarely give out these signals unless you are very good looking.
If you aren't a good looking guy, i would advise against waiting for "signals" because it's not efficient/consistent.
I'm also short 5'6 and non-white. I learned about PU from David D. I did some approaching in college but quickly stopped since it didn't work for me. Got a few numbers that didn't go anywhere. Only did maybe 20-30 approaches nowhere near as yours.
Most of my lays have come from cashiers, waitresses, women at the park etc. They have always given me a sign first -usually strong eye-contact or a compliment. I never dress well always tshirts and shorts.
Another thing is that all these girls were young under or around early 20 usually in college or out of high school -mostly skinny and attractive to me. Totally serious about this, I look like I'm in college also. Women my age don't give me much interest, and if they do they won't put out and like some sort of commitment first.
I did get some interest from girls in high school but messed all that up chasing the most popular girls at the school... got labeled as a creep. Game over after that.
the most popular girls in school are USUALLY the most attractive, so I don't blame you chasing the hotter girl instead of the 5s or 6s who was probably into you.
I can sense you are reliant on a woman who give you signals first, the downside is that you cannot control the attractiveness of these girls, and that it's too much of a dependence. I get it, you got some success from it from the past but generally speaking, i wouldn't rely on it in the long term.
If you see a hot girl walking by or by herself sitting down, don't tell me you aren't gonna approach her all because she didn't give you any "signals" first, although there's a small chance you might get with her, so what? give it a try. COld approach pickup is a numbers game, and the better looking you are the higher your hit rate would be.
I'm no slayer. Such situations only happen 1-2x a year but I also never go out. The few times I have gone to a bar I didn't get any interest. Bars here are pretty lame since I live in a 2-300K pop city. Only once I went to a dance club in a large city something happened but no lay...
Sorry I don't post or visit this forum anymore. Only come here every few months to see how things are going.
I just want feedback.
a 2-300k population city isn't that big to sustain cold approach in the long term. YOu will eventually see the same people within the next few months over and over again.
Honestly dude, when I go out, i just have fun. I don't worry about "getting laid" or "Not getting laid". Bcuz i know for sure i probably won't get laid, but at least ican have fun. What could I be doing better on a fri/sat night? exactly
then again, i respect people who stay in and rely on prostitutes(master yoda). I can totally respect that choice too.
Cold approach pickup is fucking HARD< ESPECIALLY if you aren't good looking. it's not for everyone.
i've learned to be thick skinned